The need for posting guidelines


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The title says it all! I'm sure not popular and I can accept that but there's a big difference between arguing the point and making personal remarks about a specific individual (me). Below are a few examples from different posters that I don't believe would be tolerated in a civilised debate in real life. So, I believe they shouldn't be tolerated online. As a means of creating harmony I am suggesting that where an individual believes that he or she has been singly and personally wronged by something that I have posted I would appreciate a PM (or here if you like) and I will undertake to address the issue and where I can I will amend the post if that is needed. However, this is not a license to ask me to change my opinions. Rather, if I have said something that was offensive to you personally  and not you because you see yourself as part of a group e.g. if I have singled you out and said "XYZ you are a dope" then I am happy to ensure that the record is put to rights. Below are the posts that give me reason to think that posting guidelines are needed because they are specifically about a person and I read them as negative statements. So just a few of the posts that referred to me as-

pissing and moaning

try to sound important by spouting a load of bs he/she/they cogged from whaterver web page and spewed back up here in order to form an inchoherent arguement about nothing.

You therefore must be one of the political class and a fully paid up member at that. in other words SPINELESS

couldnt you type like you talk instead of using all the waffle... please?

when you reach a certain level jak, you will start to understand musical interpretation,

i dont think a resonable person would say such a thing.

If you are not going to provide this then SHUT UP

scathing ill informed generalisation

you read things that arent there which is very frustrating, and you make irrelevant comparisons. 


making assumtions, comparissons, estimations, and judgements when he/she/they/it

...a douche...

[Moderator note: This thread is being closed as per the new forum charter]

- Edited by Admin on 11/06/2010 at 15:59

Jak posted a new topic on 10/06/2010 @ 20:48

Jak, i think what we need is for you to be more sensitive to other peoples feelings and beliefs. You have pissed off just about everyone i know here, and its not because they dont like you, its because what you say is quite insulting sometimes. it seems, every post takes a terrible turn and people end up getting insulted, and as soon as someone calls you on it, you seem to disappear and open another post.

this isnt the school yard, its not about being popular. this is about people expressing their opinions (as long as said opinions dont insult or offend), asking questions, and sharing information.

posting a bunch of out of context 1 liners isnt going to make anyone feel sorry for you jak. this is the real world, and i suggest you man up, forget about, and start playing nice.

please stop with all this nonsense while we still have a forum to post on. Because, and i know this for a fact, people are loosing interest because of the content that has been posted for the last few weeks.

we have already addressed how you "wronged" every salsa teacher in the known world, you appologised, its over, let it go.

i cant speak for everyone here, but i will say, i feel, people dont want an appology, they would be happier if you just respected their beliefs, dropped this, and moved on. we all know you are quite opinionated jak and can see you have good use of the english language, but there comes a time when you just have to agree to disagree, and bow out gracefully. Just because you are right or believe you are doesnt mean you have to set out to prove everyone else wrong.

and im sure there are already guidelines in place.

this may sound cheesy, but just for the record, i meant every word i said, and if any post i have made in the defense of teachers and dancers alike results in me being banned from the forum, so be it. I would do it all again. I will never stand by and watch someone slate the people and business i love without putting up some fight.

Jak, i believe most of what you said over the past few weeks doesnt belong in a civilised debate, i also believe, if you were not annoymous, or this was the real world you would not make the remarks you do.

I however type like i talk, i will never ever put up anything on a forum i would not say in person.

so administrators, how about that, how about a no annonymous posting guideline?

im growing very tired of this Jak, and i know others are too. 

I appologise to all others who were caught up in any of my debates with Jak.

Who knows, maybe on some level people enjoy it, its like a soap opera its better than eastenders in any case

tom doherty replied on 11/06/2010 @ 08:54
Jak,

We have already responded to your concerns via private message and have made a judgement on the posts you have mentioned. When those posts were read in context we felt that none of them constituted an actual personal attack, but were instead a criticism of your opinions and the way you choose to convey those opinions.

We do have a set of guide-lines that we use when deciding which posts to leave/remove but in the interest of transparency we will look at doing up a forum charter and posting it for everyone to read.
Admin replied on 11/06/2010 @ 15:11

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